This week me and my wife celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary and a few younger couples have asked me to share with them our secret. When I think about that question I have a few answers from “our faith”, or “great communication”. Another answer I could give is we have fun and be somewhat adventurous. So as part of our anniversary celebration, we decided to go zip lining. We both have a fear of heights, my wife a little more than me, but one of the things we have tried to do over the years is to face our fears and push through the other side. We raised our girls to do the same thing which is why they have never been afraid to go for their dreams and goals. Below are parts of a blog I posted a few years ago about facing your fears and a poem called don’t quit. So no matter where you are in life, no matter what is going on around you, if you get turned away from a team you are trying out for or keep hearing no from perspective clients, Don’t Quit.
From June 5, 2014. I recently conducted an independent, non-scientific poll asking people what they fear. Besides a few “spiders” or “heights” over 55% of the responses said the “fear of failure” is their biggest fear. The fear of failure can paralyze people it can cause people to become inactive or just quit at trying to be successful. Success matters, but it should matter only to you… what makes you happy is defined by you. When things happen in life the key is “don’t quit”. The poem that I heard on the Steve Harvey radio show exemplifies exactly what it means by the phrase “Don’t Quit”.
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns, As every one of us sometimes learns, And many a failure turns about, When he might have won had he stuck it out; Don’t give up though the pace seems slow– You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than It seems to a faint and faltering man, Often the struggler has given up, When he might have captured the victor’s cup, And he learned too late when the night slipped down, How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out– The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far, So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit– It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.
– Author unknown