Do’s and Dont’s

I am excited to share with you that my second book will drop on September 1, 2016.  Over the next month in my blogs I will be sharing excerpts from the book.

I will also be asking for your help; my goal is to be an Amazon bestselling author.  I need everyone to go on Kindle on Friday, September 2nd between 11am and noon Pacific Standard Time and purchase the book.  If I out sale my category for that one-hour Amazon will name me a best seller.  The book will be priced at $3.99.  To add your name to the pre-launch watch list by go to .  Ten free eBooks of my first title, The 7 Principles of Faith-Based Parenting will be raffled to people who purchase the book on September 2 between 11am and Noon.


I have been involved in youth sports for over 25 years as a coach and or parent.  I have seen many types of parents from both seats and have been able to come up with some pretty simple do’s and Don’ts that I feel can help avoid the temptation of being that Crazy Ass Parent that robs the joy of the sport from their kid and drive the coach and other parent’s crazy.  In this first series I have put together a hodgepodge of real life examples of what has worked and what has not worked.  Learn and Enjoy!

“Once you as a parent are assured the team is a safe environment, release your child to the coach and to the game. That way all successes are theirs, all failures are theirs.”

I wrote this passage from my many experiences with parents over 20 years of coaching.  My best experience was a few years ago when me and my coaching partner, coach P and I assembled a team of the best young softball players in our area.  They were young, talented, hardworking and hungry to earn a scholarship.  Most of them were 14 and 15 years old and they understood that if they competed it would make them better players, but what was also great was that their parents got it too.  They knew that at the end of the day everything came down to them and how hard they worked, and if they focused on what they could control then it was all going to work out fine.  So how well did it work out?  Twelve of the thirteen players went on to four year schools, including the likes of Cal, Arizona State, North Carolina State and San Diego State.

Parents a “safe environment” includes one that cares for the emotional state of your student athlete.  Parents, pay attention to the coach’s subtle behavior.  If the coach plays on the emotions of your kid to the point your child is saying things like “coach was in a bad mood” or if the coach says they are harder on your kid than the other players because they “care” about them or they want to “make them better” then you need to be concerned.  A safe environment includes one that is safe emotionally and spiritually.
















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