“The greatest legacy one can pass on to one’s children, and grandchildren is not money or other material things accumulated in one’s life, but rather a legacy of character and faith.” — Billy Graham, evangelist
Lately, I have been saying you don’t let the inmates run the insane asylum. That is a phrase that I have been more serious about each time I say it because it comes from the fact that the last few teams I coached and now the kids who play for one of my sports teams for the school that I am the director of athletics at are being allowed to run the “show.”
When parents apologize for their kid’s lack of responsibility, when other adult leaders around them make excuses or pick up the ball after the kid dropped it, you get a not so good ingredient. Then you add the kids’ attitude and expectation that the adult owes them something, you get the kid running the program.
I learned something a long time ago from some of the “roughest” kids I ever supervised. The gang bangers from south-central Los Angeles would tell me the reason they could be rival gangs yet break bread together when I was on shift was that they knew I would not allow chaos but expected structure and order. The inmates never ran the insane asylum!